So, to start, I have a relationship with God.
It’s not perfect, like any relationship we have our ups and downs (all me lol- God remains the same) but the cool part is he always sees the good in me. That fact that He gave Jesus to me (to everybody as a gift and we didn’t have to earn it)…I mean that’s enough!
I know many days Jesus has probably looked at me like “Girl, what is you doing?!” many times, but he has continued to heal me, bring wonderful people in my life and continues to open doors I never thought possible.
Why did I say all that? Well, it’s to lay the foundation.
Even with my strong relationship with Jesus, I still chose to seek therapy.
I’ve found many Christians and the African American Community still look down on therapy saying that “Oh, you can just pray your problems or issues away.”
It’s mind-blowing to me how people feel this way when most of those same people support pre-marital counseling or marriage counseling and many also recommend grief therapy; guess what folks… it’s still therapy!
I began wanting to seek therapy when I noticed there were some personality traits that seemed to continually cause friction or issues. I didn’t like that. I prayed and asked trustworthy friends for advice and although I received perspective, I got tired of having my friends listen to my concerns and wanted more insight. Then one of my favorite people died, my grandfather. It was at that point I knew I couldn’t handle life by myself, I was strong but not that strong.
I found an African American Christian female therapist with years of experience. I was nervous for various reason, but she just let me talk through all the things I was concerned about, the grief from losing my grandfather and basically everything that came to my mind.
After spilling my guts, she broke down how we could attack all the areas of concern and gave me homework to do. As of now, I’ve had 7 sessions (started in February 2020), 1 hour each.
Honestly, it’s so nice to have an hour to myself where it’s just about me. Not being vain, what I mean is I can focus on what I’m dealing with, without having to worry about being offensive or concerned about someone else’s feelings. It’s like a breath of fresh air. She has given me insight on things and perspective, and it has helped my mental (my way of thinking). We also discuss God’s take on my concerns as well. I also take what I receive and pray about that too.
It’s a balance. It’s like going to the doctor for medicine but trusting God to heal you. That’s the best example I can give.
I have to be mentally stable otherwise I’m not productive. I do not know why people won’t invest in their mental health; when you are thinking clearly you can tackle just about anything and build strong relationships.
I would recommend therapy/counseling for everyone. It is a time where you can reflect on things, gain perspective, and get things off your chest. For me it has helped save many of my relationships because I needed to adjust somethings in my character that were causing friction in areas where I wanted peace.
You are not crazy if you can’t figure out problems that you have, or you can’t understand why you aren’t able to feel or process certain things. There’s help for that.
And Christians, you’re not cheating on God or depending on him less if you go to therapy, you just have someone else to help you reach and focus on the plans he has for you.
Love you loves
[Side note: most insurances cover or reduce the cost of therapy sessions. Contact your provider]